How Many Dates Before Sex, We Help You Make an Informed Decision

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The average number of dates before sleeping together is traditionally three; the three date rule is common but is this really enough time to decide whether to do the deed. Dating etiquette and the number of dates can be something of a mystery, especially if you are just out of a relationship, just started dating, meeting someone on a night out with friends or even just in the mood to be with someone and have some attention from a partner.

Motive
How many dates until sex certainly depends on motive, it is hard to know exactly how long you’re “supposed” to wait until you sex with a new partner, but there is no hard and fast rule. Whether you are looking for another notch on your bedpost or you actually like the person it all comes down to motive. I speak for myself here but we can be guilty of sleeping with someone on the first date, or first time of meeting even when we like the person enough to have waited in the first place. Does your first sex session really impact that much on the future of your relationship with that person, or does waiting for 3, 4, 5 dates makes the possibility of a relationship stronger. Your motive will tell you, if you’re looking for a quick fix and you feel safe then sex could just be what you need. But if you’re looking for something deeper, and longer lasting then building trust and a rapport with your partner could not only secure the possibility of sex but also returning to do the deed for the months ahead.

Feel comfortable
There is no specific rate of time that stops you or allows you to have sex, believe it or not. You may well be meeting up for sex dates, and if so then you are both aware of the boundaries, you’ve both set yourself a specific target and that’s fine! But knowing when is it okay to have sex will boil down to how you feel. I know this sounds simple but you really do need to feel comfortable and relaxed with your date. Should I have sex with him or her will come naturally after you have taken the time to have a laugh, enjoy your time, have fun and get to know each other. Knowing how to initiate sex for the first time will also come only when you feel comfortable. By taking it in turns to decide where to go on your next date, and what to do will help you both judge where the dates are going from a physical point of view, then and only then will know when the time is right, for you!